Never Stop Dating

Okay, so I (Kenny) have just finished preparing for a Bible Study tonight on love. Looking at 1 Corinthians 13 can really hit you over the head if you actually study it. There's a phrase in there at verse 8 that says "Love never ends." If only we all could grasp that fact as husbands and men of God. Paul calls us in Ephesians 5 to "love your wives as Christ loved the church." THE ONLY WAY we are permitted to use that ever popular phrase "I just fell out of love with him/her" is if Jesus ever "falls out of love with His church! So how do you keep the fire burning? By keeping the fire burning.

Okay, so let me explain what I mean by that confusing statement. I really believe one of the main causes for divorce is a lack of effort to love. If love is a choice (and it is) then you have to keep choosing to love every day from now until you die. Love is lived way before it is felt. So lets flesh this out and look at some very practical ways of keeping that fire burning.

Look at the title of this post - "Never Stop Dating." Seriously, why in the world do we stop working for our spouse's attention once we get married, or even once we get engaged. Some even stop trying to work once they think they have the other person hooked. If your wife likes for your hair to be a certain way, then keep it that way until she doesn't like it anymore. If your husband loves for you to cook a fancy meal for him, then don't make him ask for it all the time.

Go out on dates where it's just the two of you again and make sure that you never become comfortable in the relationship. Always tell them how much you love them. You know how sickening it would be to have to read a high school couple's text messages? All you would see is: "I love you" "I love you more" "Well, I love you the most" and "I love you the mostest" blah blah. Are you past that stage? Why? Don't ever lose that sense of longing to see them. Don't ever not miss them when they aren't around.

This goes for couples dating too. Please don't misunderstand me; I am not telling you to act in a way that's out of your normal self, but I am telling you to work hard to make them happy every single day for the rest of your life. Those of you who are dating know how hard you have to work at a relationship to keep it going. Don't ever stop working! Make them the priority.

Let me get real personal and tell you that I struggle with this. I love Jenna more every single day that I know her, but I have difficulty with this. I become comfortable and unless I am intentional, I don't tell her I love her as much as I want to. Neither do I sacrifice to serve her because I just assume I don't need to anymore. I don't know about the rest of you, but I am going to work to make sure our fire never goes out.


When we are old and gray (Lord willing) I want us to be just as excited to see each other as our first date. I want to be making sure I tell her I love her all the time. So let's never stop dating.